“It’s been a minute. What have you been up to?” “Haven’t heard from you in a bit. What’s new with you?” “Hey, stranger! How’ve you been?”
“What was the name of the song you said you liked? Going to check it out rn. ” “Tell me more about your coffee obsession. Where’s the best cafe in town?" “I was just thinking about what you said last night… How’d you learn so much about that?”
“Would you rather stay home in your PJs or dress up and go out on a Friday night?” “If you could get dinner with any 4 famous people, who would you pick?” “What’s your dream vacation destination?”
Try bringing up a common experience or quirk to see if she can relate. You can use a line like, “Please tell me I’m not the only one who listens to songs on repeat” to start a lively debate. Talk about a hobby you both enjoy in your free time. For example, “Have you checked out the kickboxing studio downtown yet?” If you know each other IRL, mention something you have in common like a shared class or favorite restaurant. For example, “How’re you feeling about the final coming up in Dr. Joan’s class?”
See if she’ll help you pick a great place to eat with a text like, “Can you help me out? Pretend you’re a food blogger. Where should I go to get the best brunch around here?” Get her thoughts on pop culture with something like, “Just finished the season finale of that show you recommended. Can you believe they killed off Margo?” Send photos of 2 outfits and ask her to help you pick which one to wear with a playful text like, “It’s up to you. Which one should I wear to class tomorrow?”
“Hi! How’d your big test go?” “Still at your aunt’s for the weekend? How’s it going so far?” “I want to hear about the wild surfing vacation you went on! See any sharks?”
“You won’t believe who I just ran into…” “Just saw the weirdest thing outside!” “Guess what I just overheard 😂” “Have I told you about the time I. . . ”
Send emojis that summarize a fun first date with a text like, “Guess what I’m thinking about? Here’s a hint 🎥🍿😊✨” Get a little sassy with a message like, “👻👻👻👻👻 If I send you a bunch of ghosts, is that considered ghosting?” Ask her to guess how you spent your evening and give an emoji clue like, “💰🦹♂️💥👊🦸. ”
For a cute approach, pair a sweet GIF or photo with the message, “This reminded me of you. ” For a funny approach, pair a GIF of a random animal with the message, “Scale of 1 to 10, how much do you think this looks like me?” When in doubt, send a funny meme and just ask, “Have you seen this one? 🤣”
“Did you check out the new album yet?!” “Saw this vid and thought of you. ” “Just checking to see if you have good taste. Let me know what you think about this song. No pressure 😉”
Send a blank-looking message like “. . . ” Then send, “You’re so beautiful, I forgot what I was going to text. ” “I’m sure you get this all the time, but you have gorgeous eyes. ” “If you were a vegetable, you’d be a ‘cute-cumber. ’”[10] X Research source
For a less intense approach, try something like, “My dog misses you” or “I miss our post-game recaps. Did you see the game tonight?” For a more intense approach, try a line like, “Missing you a little more than usual today. ” For a super flirty, confident approach, try “Miss me yet?”[12] X Research source
“You are the world’s fastest texter 🐌😂. ” “This is me waiting for your next message 👀. ” You can soften this comment by sending another message like “It’s worth it, though!” To get really meta, send the song “Don’t You (Forget About Me). ”
“Do you want to hang out sometime? I’m free Saturday afternoon!” “You + me + ice cream tomorrow night?” “Hey! Want to grab drinks with me on Friday?”
