If things are awkward at first, give it time. You may not have easy, flowing conversation right off the bat, especially if it’s been a while.
If they leave you on Read, don’t worry. They might be feeling shy. Don’t be scared to follow up with a question or an invitation to go out again soon.
Set up a time when you can sit down and enjoy a meal together over Zoom or watch your favorite movie using Netflix or other streaming services.
This opens up an opportunity to start planning a time to see each other again. Don’t be afraid to let them know you’re eager to get together.
Exchanging “I miss you” messages back and forth can make a relationship feel sort of dull. But sending this message reminds you both that there is something to look forward to.
Sharing these kinds of things makes them feel connected to you, even if you’re not able to see each other as much as you’d like.
It’s often easier said than done, but try not to overthink. Go with your gut!
If they aren’t free that day, ask them when they’re available to meet up. If your only option is to meet virtually, be creative! Drink wine and paint portraits of each other. Do an online museum tour. Find what they’re interested in and get imaginative.
Saying “sometime soon” can seem dismissive and noncommittal. You don’t want them to think you just feel obligated to catch up. Let them know you’re excited to see them and hear how they’re doing.
You can even wait a day to send it. Or two. Or three!
It’s fine to end the conversation right here, even if they keep responding. Prioritize your wellbeing, and block their number if you need to. If it’s not necessarily a harmful relationship, but one that lacks romantic feelings, you can tell them you’d like to stay friends. But only say it if you really mean it. It’s completely fine if you want the relationship to end altogether.
It’s okay to miss the way things were, but there’s only so much you can do to salvage a relationship. You can’t go back in time, even though you may feel like it would solve everything. Remember what made you want to leave and hold on to that. It may save you from starting another cycle of hurt.
This kind of text can rope you back into something that hasn’t been working. However, if it’s a relationship you’re hoping to salvage, this might start a conversation about getting back on track.
There’s no way to anticipate how they’ll respond to this message. After all, you are only in charge of your behavior. But if you lead with respect, you can only hope they will do the same.
