She might say things like, “Are you sure that happened? I think you’re misremembering,” or, “You’re so emotional. You always over-exaggerate things. ” Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse. If you are being gaslit by your girlfriend, reach out to friends or family for help right away.

For instance, maybe you try to bring up the fact that she’s on her phone a lot when you two are supposed to be hanging out. Instead of working with you to find a compromise, she might say something like, “Well, you’re on your phone too sometimes, even when I ask you to stop. You’re making this a huge deal. ”

Maybe you set a boundary that you need 2 hours of alone time after work. Your girlfriend might start by giving you an hour and a half to yourself, then just an hour, then 30 minutes. Eventually, you’ll realize that you aren’t getting any alone time at all, even though you made it clear in the beginning that you needed it.

Partners can have different hobbies, and that’s totally fine. However, if you make time to do your girlfriend’s favorite things and she won’t do the same for you, she could be manipulating you.

Your girlfriend might also try to guilt you into hanging out with her, saying things like, “You never hang out with me!” or, “Why do you spend so much time with them?”

She might ask you to buy her gifts, have sex with her (when you don’t really want to), unfollow certain people on social media, or stop hanging out with certain friends.

She might say things like, “You can’t be mad at me, I bought you food yesterday,” or, “I can do whatever I want, because I paid for our vacation. ”

She might also ask you who you’re talking to on the phone, or try to check your texts.

Constructive comments are okay, but calling your partner names or disrespecting them is not.

Unfortunately, being nervous about her devices could also mean that she’s cheating on you.

Even if you have nothing to hide, you still don’t have to give your partner total access to your accounts. Everyone deserves their own privacy, even in a relationship.

You’re allowed to break up with whoever you want, whenever you want. Your girlfriend can’t manipulate you into staying in an unhealthy relationship.