Don’t go overboard. Using someone’s name too often can come off as creepy or even manipulative.
Again, don’t overdo it. If your mirroring looks obvious or excessive, it will come off as mocking or weird. Subtlety is key!
Making little to no eye contact at all will make her feel rejected, making your job of building chemistry much harder. Too much eye contact comes off as intimidating. A good rule of thumb is to keep eye contact about 50% of the time when you’re speaking, and about 70% of the time when you’re listening. [4] X Research source
Silly nicknames Playful disagreements like, “I can’t believe you don’t think The Mummy is the greatest movie of all time!” Flirty challenges like, “I bet you can’t text me AND watch The Bachelor at the same time. ” Playfully accusing her of hitting on you if you’re ready to move things to a more physical level. Try something like, “I see the way you look at me in my Target uniform!”
Sprinkle some genuine questions into the conversation as well to show you care about what she’s up to and that you remember details or plans she told you about. It’s OK to leave a little lag in the conversation. A few minutes spent waiting for a text is a few minutes spent thinking about you! Don’t wait too long though, or she’ll feel you’ve lost interest in the conversation. Be the one to end the conversation, but promise to text her again soon. Say something like, “I’ve got to go tackle that advertising deck I told you about. I’ll text you once I make it to the other side!”
Keep it genuine. If you’re faking an interest in something, she will find out at some point and feel like you’ve been dishonest with her. That’s a major chemistry killer.
Too much cologne can be worse than not using enough. Use 2 squirts maximum: 1 around the neck line, and 1 on the wrist.
Always ask for consent before changing or elevating the way you use physical touch. Asking “Can I hold your hand?” is a polite and endearing way to show you want to get closer while respecting her boundaries. Continue checking in with her as the nature of your relationship and physical contact changes. [12] X Research source
Try some activities that get your heartrate going, like intramural sports or a hike. She’ll associate that out-of-breath, exhilarating feeling with you. [14] X Research source Plant the seeds for your next outing before you part ways to keep the chemistry sizzling. Tell her about the amazing view you want to show her at your favorite rooftop bar instead of “Bye!”
Vulnerability doesn’t have to be all verbal. Trying a new food with her or introducing yourself to a stranger in front of her are nonverbal ways to show vulnerability.
