“How’re you feeling about the homework for English? I’m feeling like this 😬” “Random question: What’s something you’ve always wanted to do?” “I’m trying to make a list of the greatest movies of all time. What’s your favorite movie?”

“What book should I read next?” “I’m looking for new music recs. What do you suggest?” “If you had to recommend 1 brunch spot in town, what would it be?”

“You like The Bleachers, right? I just discovered their new EP. What’s your favorite song?” “I saw your Insta post on coral reefs. How’d you get involved with that oceans club?” “Since you’re a total jock, if you had to pick between never playing basketball again or never playing soccer again, what would you pick?” If you disagree over something, don’t freak out! A little playful debate over “Which Beatles Song Is The Best” can help you two get to know each other and it can start up a hilarious back-and-forth.

Text her something like “You’ll never guess what I saw today” and then follow it up with a wacky photo of your friends being weird or a beautiful picture of a sunset. Send her an adorable GIF and say, “I thought you were cute, but this GIF might be cuter. " Want to really change things up? If you know her well, try sending her a song and saying, “This made me think of you. " If you don’t know her well, send her a link to a movie trailer or a new album from a cool band and say, “Have you seen this yet?”

For example, you can ask “Are you going to that game/play/dance tonight?” You could even ask if she wants to come along with you (or with you and a group of friends, if you’re feeling a little shy about jumping in on that first date). You could also make small talk about some experience you’ve both had, like saying “It was so crazy running into you at Starbucks today!” or “Can you believe how Mr. Smith yelled at that student in English class today?”

“Would you rather go backwards or forwards in time?” “Would you rather travel solo or with a group?” “Would you rather live in a place where it snowed all the time or a place that was super hot?”

“Hey! Just thought of you. I’m glad I have smart people like you in my life. ” “Talking to you always makes my day 😊” “I thought I was the funniest person around here until I met you. ” Check out How to Text Message Someone You Like if you need some more ideas.

You can even start a conversation with a girl by sending her a string of emojis and asking her to guess what they mean. Try something like, “Guess what I’m doing right now! 🎡🎈🍿”[7] X Research source If you’re really unsure how to use a smiley face, start by just tacking one on at the end of a text, like “Have you seen the new episode of ‘New Girl’? It was really good 😁” In general, winky faces are more suggestive and used with flirty texts and double-entendres. Don’t use a winky face where you’ll normally see a smiley face because it might seem misplaced or even confusing.

“Hey, do you want to study together after physics on Tues?” “I have two tickets for a concert at Washington Park. Do you want to go with me?” “Are you free to hang out this weekend? Wanna grab coffee?”

As a good rule of thumb, match her response pace. If she takes about a minute to respond to a message, take a minute before you reply to one of her messages.

Be sure to stop texting her immediately if she asks you to stop. It’s important to respect her boundaries.