He may also just be busy and have a packed schedule—that comes down to his lifestyle. Being MIA or inconsiderate might just be a pattern of his. He might not understand his habits are confusing, but that’s not your fault.
Try sleeping on it for 2-3 days—consistently getting 8 hours of rest is important, anyway. Exercise will help get your body moving, your eyes off your phone, and your mind off of him. Focus on your passions and you might realize you’d prefer to work on yourself.
If he only ever sent one-liners before, more texts from you just show you’ll put in all the effort. If he never initiates convos, it’s a big sign he’s not willing to put in work for any connection. There’s a chance he’ll notice less texts from you and wonder if he should try a little harder.
“Haven’t heard from you in a while. Do you still want to hang out?” “Hey, are you feeling any chemistry here?” “Are you still interested in dating?”
If he’s “ghosted” you because you asked a question, you’re better off without him. If he calmly explains he doesn’t feel chemistry, take it as a sign of honesty and respect. If he did get caught up in personal matters, you can decide if his lifestyle is compatible with yours later.
“Okay, got it!” “I understand. ” “Thank you for letting me know. ”
If you’re not feeling it anymore, be specific and say something like, “I need someone who’s more available. ” If you do want to give it another shot, you can set a limit like, “I need you to give me a heads up if you’re swamped with work. ”
If you haven’t heard back from him and want to vent, call up a friend instead. The conversation will be a lot more productive.
If your buddies focus on giving you fun distractions, try not to mention the guy who blew you off at all. Just melt into the moment and appreciate the good company.
If it helps you fight the temptation, you can just block him. Try catching up on your friends’ posts and see what they’re all up to. Follow new accounts or interesting influencers for new content to focus on.
Separate his rejection, which is an unrelated situation, from who you are as a person. By disappearing, he lets you pursue a more rewarding love life. Repeat a mantra, or uplifting phrase. Say something like, “I’m really caring, and I deserve kindness in return. ”
Check in with yourself and schedule dates when you feel emotionally ready. Pay attention to the way a guy follows up with you before the first date—for example, if he regularly texts about where and when you’ll meet, it’s a good sign that he’s reliable.
