Focus on the “what” you want and not the “how” (that’s for the universe to decide). Write down what you want or create a vision board with images that represent your future relationship. Physically creating something puts your manifesting in motion.
Handwrite your list with a pen and paper instead of typing it out. [4] X Expert Source Jennifer McVey, ChtSpiritual Director Expert Interview. 21 December 2021. The universe tends to reciprocate physical acts of doing or creating something. Keep your list somewhere private where you can return to it later. Your list isn’t set in stone and you can revise it as you gain clarity on your wants. We can’t predict who we fall in love with, so it’s OK if you don’t have a lot of physical or visual traits about your partner on your list. Focus on how they make you feel or what they add to your life. Always include the date when you’re writing your manifestations down. [5] X Expert Source Jennifer McVey, ChtSpiritual Director Expert Interview. 21 December 2021.
Try writing down a few notes about your perfect love on a piece of paper. Read it over a few times before bed and keep it under your pillow while you sleep. [7] X Research source If you created a mood or vision board, spend a few minutes each day looking at it and meditating on your intent.
A letter to your future self is a powerful way to heighten your self-awareness and let the universe know you’re serious about finding love. When you’ve finished your letter, spend time reflecting on your life now. Are you on track to meet these goals by the time you open your letter? What can you do to get there?
Introducing yourself to new people with confidence Buying and wearing things because you like them, not because you want to be noticed in them Feeling secure with a night in on the weekends
Agreeing to go on dates with people very unlike your dream partner (saying “yes” to the wrong people only shows the universe that that’s what you want) Ruminating on your flaws with negative self-talk Using alcohol or drugs to help you talk to people
Editing your bio or changing your photos on a dating app Practicing making friendly small talk with different kinds of people Taking a new route to work or going to different bars and coffee shops to run into new people
Writing in a gratitude journal every night about the good things that happened to you that day or moved you closer to your dream partner Saying 3 things you’re grateful for before you go to bed each night Meditating on what you’re grateful for for a few minutes each day
Counter negative thoughts (“I’m too old,” “I’m not successful enough”) with positive affirmations (“I deserve love my whole life,” “I’m satisfied with what I’ve accomplished”). Consider therapy or counseling for help dissecting past trauma that’s impeding on your goals and to learn new coping skills. Let go of people who have hurt or disappointed you in the past. Stay optimistic about the new, wonderful people waiting to enter your life. The key to manifestation is being aware that you are a powerful creator spirit who is able to create your own life. [14] X Expert Source Jennifer McVey, ChtSpiritual Director Expert Interview. 21 December 2021.
Practice self-love with daily affirmations of love and gratitude for yourself, your characteristics, and your attributes.
Any mention of your desires in print or pictures you come across Overhearing someone talk about goals similar to yours Feeling unexplained sparks of joy or excitement As you get better at manifesting, you may notice it happening faster and faster. [18] X Expert Source Jennifer McVey, ChtSpiritual Director Expert Interview. 21 December 2021.
Examine what you’ve accomplished and what you still need to do. What changes can you make to get there? If your manifestation isn’t working, revisit the original type of love or partner traits you envisioned. Did you leave something out? Were you dishonest with yourself or including things that other people expect for you? Are there any fears holding you back?
