She’ll feel like you understand her if you suggest quiet nights in. Come up with things the two of you can do privately together—board games, movies, and jigsaw puzzles are great options. Compliment her home by telling her how cozy things look or how warm and inviting it is. If you tell her you feel at home in her home, she’ll think, “mission accomplished. "
She’s a good listener, so never hesitate to come to her with your problems. Just keep in mind that if you’re just talking, she’s more of a person to empathize with you than try to fix things.
She’s also extremely sensitive, so things are likely to set her off that less sensitive people probably wouldn’t even notice. It can be hard for her to control her mood sometimes so don’t take it personally. An abrupt mood swing usually won’t have anything to do with you.
She’ll be more inclined to open up to you if you’re always open and honest with her. Hiding things from her or keeping secrets will give her a reason to close back up. A Cancer woman values security. She’ll trust you if you make her feel safe and protected.
If you’re one who tends to put your emotions aside to deal with problems objectively, she’ll likely see you as a cold person. Always acknowledge your emotions and keep them in mind. Be prepared for her to ask you how you feel about something. If an option doesn’t make you feel good, you’ll have a hard time convincing her it’s the right choice.
She might not be able to put into words why she feels a certain way about something. Try to take her word for it instead of challenging her, which will make her feel like you don’t respect her.
She’ll know that you get her if you show that you appreciate that she needs time alone and don’t give her a hard time about it. Never take it personally if she cancels a date or other outing because she needs her alone time. If she goes out without being sufficiently recharged, she’ll likely feel guilty for not being her best.
If she doesn’t have anything specific for you to do, look for something you can clean. She’ll know you understand her if you show that you clean as you go and care for the environment around you. Offer her tastes of whatever you’re cooking from time to time, she’ll appreciate the care that you’re taking toward making something she’s sure to enjoy.
Colorful pastel macarons are a wonderful choice for the feminine Cancerian. Anything homemade will go over great with her. Even if it’s not the prettiest thing, she’ll see the love and care that went into it.
You might sense that something is bothering her if she gets quiet. She believes that if you can’t say something nice, it’s better to say nothing at all. Gently encourage her to come to you when she has a problem. If she believes that you won’t make a big deal out of it, she’ll be more willing to come forward.
Holidays are very important to her for this reason. Expect her to pull out all the stops—she wants a traditional family gathering and it just won’t feel right to her otherwise. She’s skeptical of anything new that she can’t easily fit into her regular routine. Show her how she can make a change with minimal disruption—she’ll love that you understand how important that is to her.
Keep in mind that she doesn’t quickly forgive and forget either. If someone gets on her bad side, they tend to stay there. It can be hard to convince her that someone has changed. She doesn’t like change, herself, and can’t really understand it in others. Once someone has wronged her, it will take her even longer to trust them again (if ever).
