Nitpick every little thing you do Criticize the way you look Refuse to spend quality time with you
Try to give him the benefit of the doubt first. Let him know how you feel when he doesn’t reply to your messages, and see if he tries to make an effort. You could say something like: “I understand that you’re busy, but I feel like I’m not a priority when you blow off my texts. Do you think we could come to some sort of compromise?” Super-delayed replies to your texts aren’t a great sign, either.
Look for a pattern of distant, disinterested behavior, too. If he only acts this way once or twice, he could just be having a bad day.
Try to keep context in mind before jumping to any conclusions. If he had a really long day at work, he could just be too tired to be intimate that night.
Ask him to hang out on multiple occasions. You might say “Would you like to head over to my place and watch a movie together?” or “Wanna grab a bite to eat at the food court tonight?” Even if he’s busy one day, an interested Virgo should still be willing to prioritize you later on.
Let the door close behind him instead of holding it open for you. Skip over chores that he’s usually eager to help with. Refuse to give you advice when you’re having a tough time.
“Your room is such a pigsty” instead of “You could really speed up your morning routine if you organized your room. ” “You look like you got dressed in the dark” instead of “Your shirt and pants don’t match very well. ”
Act like his opinion matters more than yours Not pay attention when you tell him something important Not remember things you mentioned in previous conversations
“I’m not mad” when he’s clearly upset. “Fine. It’s whatever” instead of sharing how he’s really feeling. “I was just joking” when he says a clearly hurtful remark.
Pay close attention to the intent of his words. Is he digging up the past solely to drag your name through the mud, or is he genuinely hurt about something?
Bicker about something minor, like a household chore Blame you about something Treat you like the bad guy
“I can’t believe we’ve been together for 2 years. I don’t think we like any of the same things. ” “I have such a hard time hanging out with you sometimes. You really like going out, and I’d rather spend a night in. ”
