12 Definite Signs You Re In An Exclusive Relationship

If, for example, you’re dating a guy who’s super flirty by nature, don’t expect him to just stop cold. But he’ll probably turn it down a notch or two!

If you’re getting these signals, there’s a good chance the other person wants to date you exclusively. If you’re not getting these signals, there’s not much of a chance.

It’s a particularly strong sign if they often contact you “just because”—for instance, texting you about random observations instead of just to set up your next date.

Create profiles on popular dating sites and search for them. Do reverse image searches for their favorite selfies. Try to create accounts on popular dating sites with their email address. They’ll typically let you know if that email is already in use. If they use the same username for pretty much everything, enter it into search engines and check the results. Use a paid app like Cheatbuster or Spokeo to search for active profiles in their name. Just ask them!

Even if they haven’t introduced you in person to friends and family, watch for changes in their social media profiles. If they make your relationship “official” online by posting about you and showing pics of you guys together, that’s a modern way of “introducing” you to their friends and family.

It’s possible to not be on the same page here, however. If, for example, you assume you have the every-weekend date but they come up with last-minute excuses, they may not be as ready as you are to date exclusively.

Even if the getaway isn’t particularly romantic, the act of getting away together is still a strong signal. For instance, instead of going away to a charming bed and breakfast on the lake, you might go together to a comic book convention in the city for the weekend.

This is another change that can happen subtly: you might go from saying “this is my date Ben” to “this is my boyfriend Ben” without realizing it.

Keep in mind that forgetting stuff at the other person’s place isn’t quite the same as deliberately keeping it there!

So, even though it’s no fun to have a fight, remember that having the fight and resolving it is a healthy sign!

Have “the talk” in person. Choose a time when you’re both calm, focused, and able to listen and share fully. Explain your perspective: “I really like you, and I’d like to see where things go with us, so I’ve decided to date you exclusively. ” Ask them to share their perspective: “Do you feel the same way about dating exclusively?” Accept their response. No matter how they answer the question, treat it as valid and continue the conversation.