For instance, you might say, “I know a lot of people our age are looking for something casual, but I’d really like to find someone serious. What are you looking for?” If he says he’s just looking for a hookup, that might be your cue to leave and find someone else.
When you two hang out, spend your time chatting or doing activities together instead of just watching a movie or playing video games.
For instance, you might ask, “What are your goals in the next 10 years?” “How was your childhood growing up?” “Do you get along with your parents?” “What’s one thing you would have done differently in the past?” If he’s a good conversationalist, he’ll ask you some of the same questions so you two can both get to know each other.
If you do sleep with him on the first date, that’s fine, too! Just make sure you set clear boundaries and expectations about what you want.
If you make yourself available as a booty call, he’s more likely to view you as something casual instead of a potential partner.
If all your interactions revolve around sex or having sex, your relationship has the potential to stay casual.
Try to keep the initiation about 50/50. If he realizes he’s always reaching out to you first, he might get discouraged.
If you two are at your place, ask him to spend the night.
You can try to do this every third or fourth time you two see each other.
You can also post pics on social media of when you’re out and about.
There are plenty of guys out there who won’t just treat you like a hookup.
