“I just finished the first season of that show you recommended!” “What music have you been listening to lately?” “Are you liking your classes this term?”
“My weekend was really great, too! I went to a concert with Elijah. " “Nice! Well, I watched the coolest movie last night. " “I was up all night working on my photography portfolio. I want to show my work at some galleries this year. "
Plan a board game night or an at-home spa day for the two of you. You might also try bringing over some fresh ingredients and cooking dinner together. If the weather’s nice, try going on a scenic hike or visiting a local beach. Or, check out a concert, movie, or play if the weather is bad. Activities like this will also encourage your friend to stay off her phone if she’s always texting her BF, too.
“I’m really happy that you’ve found such a great boyfriend, but I feel like we’ve been talking about him a lot lately. I miss when we used to talk about other stuff, too. " “I think it’s so great that you’re dating a good guy, but sometimes it feels like he’s all we talk about. Do you think we can take a break from talking about him for a little bit?”
“I’ve had a great time hanging out, but I’ve got to get home. Have a great rest of your day!” “I have to head out for the night. I’m sorry I can’t stay longer!”
Show your friend you’re listening by making eye contact, staying off your phone, and nodding along as she speaks. Take an interest in her life and ask questions (even if you’re not super interested). You might say, “I’m glad the two of you had a good weekend! Where did you go to dinner?”
Take some time to hang out with your family, read a few chapters of a book, or go for a walk. If your friend keeps calling, send a quick text to let her know that you’re busy. Try, “I’m sorry I missed your call. Hanging out with family right now! 😊”
If it’s been over 2 months and your friend is still talking about her boyfriend nonstop, it’s totally okay to bring it up and ask that you talk about other things, too.
You might be super different, but both enjoy going to baseball games or watching old movies. Focus on what the two of you do have in common and bring that up whenever you see him. Ask your friend if she wants to bring her boyfriend along sometimes as a peace offering. It’ll mean a lot to her if you make an effort to get to know him, and you might even enjoy it.
If your friend is super busy with dates and plans with her boyfriend, ask her to hang out a few days in advance. This will boost your chances of seeing each other regularly and making time for your friendship. Try your best to be happy for your friend, even when it’s tough. You might think to yourself, “Sometimes I miss how it used to be, but my friend deserves a caring, supportive partner. I’m glad she’s found that!”
Ask other people in your social circle to check out a movie or go thrifting. If you’re looking to make some new friends, join a local club or meetup group related to your interests.
