As a rule of thumb, keep your compliments general and vague. Admire things like her style, essence, or confidence. If you want to compliment her looks, stick to nonsexual, body-unspecific flattery. If you want to compliment her body, hold off until you’ve established a relationship. Or, wait until she’s complimented your body first. To make the best impression though, compliment her personality, intelligence, and skills over her looks. In work or formal settings, avoid appearance-based compliments altogether.
“Wow, look at those shoes! They’re great. Where’d you get them?” Pay attention to what you like specifically about her clothes. Then, comment on that: “I love that dress. The embroidered pattern is so nice. ” Compare her fit to a classic style icon, “That suit is amazing. I feel like that’s something Zendaya would wear. ”
“Wow, that sea-green purse is literally my favorite color. I love it!” “Aw, wow. That light blue headband totally matches your eyes. It looks really nice. ” “That hot pink jacket is so cool. I’d wear that shade myself, actually. ”
“I’ve gotta say it—there’s something so amazing about your style. How would you describe it?” “I love the way you dress. You have such a fashionable, bold style. It’s so fun!” “Your vibe is just awesome. Your clothes are so cool but also, so individual to you!”
“To me, you come off as really sure of yourself. I love that. ” “You’ve got this natural charm and confidence. It’s amazing. ” “It’s so refreshing speaking with someone who has such a strong sense of self. It really emanates!”
“I feel like you put out such a positive vibe. You’re boosting my energy while we talk. ” “You’ve got such a naturally playful energy. I love how much you smile in conversation. You’re, like, insanely fun to talk to. ” “I think you’ve got this really understanding, open vibe. It’s hard to describe, but lovely to be around. ”
“There’s something about you. You just really shine!” “I don’t know what it is exactly, but you’re just sort of luminescent. ” “You’re seriously, like, beaming. Do people tell you that a lot or are you just especially radiant tonight?”
“I love how you laugh. You don’t hold back—it’s so amazing. ” “Your laugh is so cute. It totally puts a smile on my face!” “I love the way you throw your head back when you laugh. It’s so sweet. ”
“You have such a warm smile. I love it. ” “Your smile is amazing. I feel like I’m in a trance! Has anyone ever told you that before?” “Wow, look at that smile. It’s magical!”
“Your eyes are this amazing shade of brown. Sorry, I keep getting lost in them. ” “Your eyes are seriously intoxicating. I’m having a hard time focusing. ” “Wow. Before I keep talking, I have to say that your eyes are dazzling. ”
Look her in the eyes and use a warm tone: “I hope I’m not being too forward. I just wanted to tell you that I think you’re really beautiful. ” After she laughs or tells a silly joke, look at her with a smile: “You’re really beautiful, Grace. ” At the end of the night, throw your compliment in with your goodbye: “Hey, also…I think you’re really beautiful, Ziwe. Okay, that’s it. Good night!"
