The best thing you can do is be their friend without attempting a romantic relationship. Once you two really know each other and feel completely at ease, you can suggest a simple date—don’t overwhelm them with romantic gestures. Just do something together that’s fun and low-pressure. Think about getting ice cream or seeing a movie.

Sometimes, it’s better to let your Aquarius see that you’re right rather than having an argument or trying to convince them. For instance, if you know that they’d tell you the best way to plant your garden, but you want to do it differently, go ahead and do it your way. Then, you can explain why you think your layout was the best.

When you argue or have a heated discussion with your Aquarius, avoid using words that blame them. Instead, tell them how you’re feeling. For example, instead of saying, “You always cancel on me at the last minute. You’re just trying to make me feel bad,” say, “I’m so disappointed when our plans don’t work out. I really look forward to spending time with you. "

Be genuine in all your interactions, so your Aquarius feels like they really know you. Establish this solid foundation before you try to develop a romantic relationship. Work on creating trust by matching their communication style and following through on promises.

If you adjust your expectations, you’ll have a much better time connecting with an Aquarius. Remind yourself to just enjoy the company of your Aquarius and don’t push for a long-term, serious relationship. Keep the relationship lighthearted and fun.

While it’s important to respect an Aquarius’s needs, you should also communicate yours. If you need more interaction or support, tell them. You could say, “I know you’re stressed out, but I haven’t seen you all week. I’ve been feeling pretty lonely. "

This isn’t to say that Aquarius isn’t a passionate sign! You may be surprised by their intensity in the bedroom. Find ways to be a comfort to your Aquarius—offer a hug after a tough day or be the person they snuggle up with on the couch.

Aquarius will start spending more time with their friends if they feel like the relationship is getting dull or too routine. To put the focus back on your relationship, spice things up a little with exciting dates or activities. You might surprise your Aquarius with tickets to go ziplining or rock climbing.

Remind yourself that Aquarius values space and that includes interacting through texts or phone calls. Don’t overwhelm them by checking in. Instead, wait until they reach out to you.

Reassure your Aquarius by doing things on your own. Continue to pursue your own interests and passions, so they see that you’re still a unique individual, too.

Try to keep your relationship as casual as possible and never expect your Aquarius to do something without talking to them. For instance, instead of assuming that they’ll spend the holidays with your family, casually ask if they want to swing by and say hi or if they’d rather sit the event out.