You’ll want to close your eyes when you actually kiss, but great eye contact is really important before you lock lips. Staring into his eyes allows those butterflies to build up in your chest—and his, too!
Sometimes, taking things slow is the best way to drive your boyfriend crazy, especially if you’re pressed up against each other. You can also pull him in by the hips or pull him in by the hand.
This is also a great way to break tension if either of you is a little nervous about kissing.
Guys love it when their partner takes the initiative so don’t be afraid to make some moves.
Get comfortable—you might tilt your head and close your eyes so you can really focus on the sensation. Try to match your boyfriend’s movements during the kiss. You want to fit together like a puzzle so it feels comfortable.
You can do this standing up, but it’s also really effective if you’re laying down together.
Make this a game! Kiss your boyfriend all over to find the most sensitive spots on his body. Feel free to combine these kisses with a massage, too. Start with a hand massage before working your way up to his arms and shoulders. Then, plant a kiss on his neck while you’re massaging his shoulders.
Have fun with temperature! Try sipping something hot and planting kisses on sensitive spots.
Play around with humming—higher pitches make faster vibrations that may tickle while lower pitches make a slower, sensual sensation.
If your guy seems a little awkward, grasp his hands and place them on your body. For instance, if he’s keeping his hands at his sides, pull them toward you and place them on your hips. If he doesn’t seem to be into it, try communicating with him about his wants and desires. You can get expert help with wikiHow’s course: How to Talk about Sex (Without Feeling Awkward). This course is created by a Sex and Relationship Psychologist, and it will walk you through how to talk to your partner about kissing, sex, and other intimate activities.
