If you’re worried about this, the best thing to do is ask him about it. Try sending him a text that says something like, “I’ve noticed that I’m always the one to text first. Is everything okay between us?”
The same is true if he sends a text or an email in response to your phone call. The polite thing to do would be to call you back, not message you.
If he repeatedly seems non-commital to plans, it’s best to move on. If he really wants to see you again, he’ll either offer up an alternative time that works for him or suggest something else to do.
If he cancels with you and then shows up on social media hanging out with his friends, that’s even more of a sign that he’s trying to avoid you. Take cancelling multiple times as your sign to move on, and find someone who will keep the plans that you make.
You might find yourself asking and answering your own questions. If you say things like, “Well my day was great, thanks for asking,” it shows that he’s not super engaged in the conversation.
If you do manage to hang out with him alone, he might seem upset or unhappy.
Try asking him what his hesitation is about. “Hey, do you not like holding hands? Or do you just not like it with me?” Keep in mind that some people just aren’t comfortable with PDA at all, and that’s okay, too.
“You seemed a little freaked out when I asked if I could meet your family earlier. Is everything okay?”
The best way to know where you two stand is simply to ask him. Say something like, “Could we talk about what we are?” to define the relationship. If he won’t commit to you, it might be time to end things and move on.
This could also be a sign that he’s not over his ex. If he constantly brings up his past relationship, he probably still has some lingering feelings to work through.
Try asking him about it by saying something like, “Hey, haven’t heard from you in a while. You doing okay?” If he’s actually mad about something you did, this gives him an opening to bring it up.
