Read over his bio for red flags. For instance, a guy whose dating profile focuses on sex likely isn’t trustworthy. Similarly, guys who mention being widowed (and other sad stories) in their bios are often scammers or catfishers.
If there are no links on his dating profile, you can do a Google Images search using one of his photos; this should locate his Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter accounts if he has them. If you’re messaging a guy with no social media accounts, it doesn’t mean he’s automatically a faker—but it does mean that getting to know him is even more crucial, so you can confirm that he’s authentic and trustworthy.
Questions like “Where are you from? What’s your favorite childhood memory?” and “What movie could you watch a million times and never get tired of?” will help you learn more about his life and interests. Online dating can be a delicate balance; neither of you should be giving out sensitive information like your address just yet. Dark personal secrets are also no-nos until later in the relationship. He might not open up to you right away if he’s shy. If everything else about him seems solid, but you don’t know much about him yet, give him some time to open up without assuming he’s untrustworthy.
If you suspect him of lying, think about everything he’s told you. Liars tend to use the “I” pronoun less in speech and texts. They also tend to write shorter dating profiles, so they don’t contradict themselves. [3] X Research source
Also, watch out for guys who make sexual comments on your photos and use overly forward pickup lines early on. Being too sexual is typically a sign that the guy is using you and not really interested in a relationship. [4] X Research source
Frequent cancellations and silent periods where he doesn’t message you are both signs that he’s not trustworthy. If you’re talking to a trustworthy guy, he’ll be quick to apologize and make alternate arrangements if plans fall through. He’ll also have nothing to hide and be willing to explain why he’s changing your plans.
Decide what info you’re comfortable sharing before making your profile. Most contain a first name, photos, and interests. Other information—including last names and phone numbers—stays confidential until you decide to share. Communicate your boundaries to guys when you need to. For instance, if he asks for your number but you want to keep it confidential until after the first date, tell him so. A trustworthy guy will accept it and move forward!
Conversely, if he’s lying to you, it’ll be easier to spot when you can see and hear him. It’s also suspicious if he avoids or cancels the video calls you try to schedule.
Make sure you always let someone know where you’re going before meeting up in person! Even if he’s been trustworthy so far, it’s always safest to keep a friend in the loop. [8] X Trustworthy Source Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network Largest anti-sexual assault organization in the US providing support and advocacy for survivors Go to source
