Taking care of your appearance doesn’t have to be all glitz and glamour. If you don’t have anything particularly fancy to show off, don’t worry. You can send him pictures of the products you use in your skincare or hair routine. He might even have recommendations for you to try. If you feel like it, go shopping for something new you can wear around him. Pick out a stylish new outfit, do your hair up, and show yourself off. Even something small like a new piece of jewelry can make a statement and show him you put a lot of effort into looking good. Get him involved by sending him pictures of outfit choices or two shirts you’re thinking of buying. He’ll pick what he thinks you’ll look good in, and it’ll make him miss being around someone so attractive.
If your relationship is in earlier stages, focus on intellect and logic rather than emotion. Not only are Virgos hesitant to express their own emotions, but they might also be scared off by someone who’s overly emotional or dramatic. Take emotional endeavors more slowly.
If you want to invite him out, make sure you have a solid and detailed plan. These men are meticulous and organized and would prefer not to leave things to chance. If you’re planning a trip to the zoo or the museum, set a schedule or write out an itinerary.
If a planned date falls through and you had to make a quick change, reassure him he came up with a good idea that you’ll try next time. If that date led to something spontaneous, tell him you still had a great time. Reassure him life happens sometimes, he can’t always control it, and that’s okay.
Share what you want your dream house to look like someday or where you think you’re headed in your career in the next few years. Even specific, short-term goals like saving $500 in the next 6 months or earning a certificate from work are good ways to show him you’re dedicated and driven.
If you’re unsure of something he’d like try, there’s no shame in asking him. He’ll be excited to tell you more about his interests, and there’s no telling what you can build off of. If there’s something he’s been afraid to try like skiing or dancing, show him you support him and are willing to do something new.
Don’t send him anything too outrageous, as that might come off as too goofy for his tastes. Instead, shoot for neutral humor like funny animals or observational humor.
There’s nothing wrong with asking what he’s been up to lately. Virgos are open and honest communicators, so it’s likely he’ll tell you the truth if something’s up. If they’ve been busy with work or trying to help others, they can get caught up trying to make things perfect, so be prepared for quiet patches from time to time.
If you can see he’s disappointed about not accomplishing a goal, tell him you understand. For example, if he’s trying to earn a promotion at work but doesn’t get it, tell him you can see he’s disappointed and ask him to tell you about it. Or, if he doesn’t want to go into detail, focus on the progress he’s made and tell him how proud you are. Getting excited about his progress with him can make him more likely to open up in the future and be more comfortable overall. Take time to notice if he’s put extra effort into looking nice for a date or interview. Congratulate him when he gets a raise or when he finishes an art project.
You can start a conversation with any of these topics or questions: “Do you think homework is an important part of learning?” “What is art and what isn’t it?” “What’s the one thing you remember most from the best book you’ve read?” “Who do you look up to most and why?”
Support them in their dreams and ambitions, even if you don’t fully understand them. If he’s pursuing a specialized career you don’t know much about, tell him you’ll be there for him along the way. If he wants time to himself for a while, tell him you’ll be there for him when he needs you.
