Usually, partners cheat because they need something and they aren’t able to communicate with you about it.
It might help to write your feelings down in a journal so you can express them without saying them out loud.
The most important thing is to not beat yourself up. You’re probably already feeling a little sad or hurt, so there’s no reason to add to that.
You don’t need to rely on your partner to increase your self-worth. If you really focus on it, you can do that all on your own.
If you decide to leave your husband, your therapist can help you come up with an action plan.
Your friends and family might also be able to offer you some advice on your specific situation.
You could say something like, “Hey, I’ve been getting the sense lately that you might be seeing someone outside of our relationship. Could we talk about this openly and honestly?” You could also talk about what led your husband to cheat and what he might feel is lacking in your relationship. If you’d like to stay together but see other people, consider talking to your husband about an open relationship.
You can bring it up by saying something like, “Are you still committed to this relationship, or would you like to try a separation?”
Forgiving your husband while he is still actively cheating on you is pretty tough to do. Forgiveness comes much easier when the negative action is in the past.
A couple’s counselor can also help you figure out the logistics of maintaining your relationship even though your husband may continue to cheat.
