If people do notice that you’re alone, they’ll probably envy your confidence. Many people struggle with going out by themselves, so good for you!
If anyone gives you a compliment, say something like, “Thanks! I found it while thrifting the other day. ” That way, it could segue into a conversation. If you don’t want to stand out, you don’t have to put on a statement piece.
If it’s someone you’ve only met a few times, try leading with something like, “Hey, Tim! It’s Allen, remember me? We met at Jessica’s party a few weeks back. ” You could also make a beeline for the party host, who you probably know. Offer to help them hand out drinks or make sure everyone has a snack to eat.
If you are planning on getting drunk, make sure you have a safe ride home. Drinking on your own is slightly more dangerous than doing it with friends, so use your best judgement.
You’ll look more approachable and nice if you keep open body language by standing up straight, not crossing your arms, and keeping your head up.
You could say something like, “Hey, I like your shoes! That neon yellow really stands out. I’m Ashley, by the way. ” If you can’t spot anyone who’s alone, try going for people standing in groups of 2 or 3.
“Did you grow up around here?” “How do you know the party host?” “Oh, I love this song! Have you heard of this band before?” “Where’d you get that scarf? It’s beautiful!”
“I’m just here on my own. All my friends were busy, but I didn’t want to miss it!” “Yeah, none of my friends could make it tonight. I thought I’d head out on my own for once. ”
It’s better to leave your conversation partner wanting more than to overstay your welcome. If they start looking bored or glancing around the room, just tell them you’ll see them later.
You never know—you might even have more fun heading out alone than you would with a group of people.
